Starting over… far from home Ukrainian family fled Kharkiv in wake of Russian invasion; find sanctuary, hope in Winnipeg

In late February, when the bombs started falling in the middle of the night on Kharkiv, Ukraine, Olena Hrushytska, 37, her son, Oleksandr (Sasha) Hrushytskyi, 6, and her fiancé, Sergiy Adamenko, 41, left their home and made their way to a subway station where many others were seeking shelter from the blasts.

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In late February, when the bombs started falling in the middle of the night on Kharkiv, Ukraine, Olena Hrushytska, 37, her son, Oleksandr (Sasha) Hrushytskyi, 6, and her fiancé, Sergiy Adamenko, 41, left their home and made their way to a subway station where many others were seeking shelter from the blasts.

They were accompanied by Adamenko’s parents and Hrushytska’s mom, a young friend, three dogs and a cat.

Life underground lasted a day. It was uncomfortable. Sasha was sleeping on a blanket on the floor; the older parents were unable to sleep at all.

They returned to their house, which they attempted to fortify as best they could. They blocked windows by stacking books and taped window panes.

Olena shows a photo of her son Sasha and fiancé Sergiy, which was taken while in transit in Europe, in March. They drove from Kharkiv, Ukraine, to Romania, then took trains and buses to Hungary and Germany, before flying from Amsterdam to Toronto and eventually Winnipeg. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena shows a photo of her son Sasha and fiancé Sergiy, which was taken while in transit in Europe, in March. They drove from Kharkiv, Ukraine, to Romania, then took trains and buses to Hungary and Germany, before flying from Amsterdam to Toronto and eventually Winnipeg. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)

When they heard the bombs, which sounded like huge tractors, they would escape to what they felt was the safest room and would shelter Sasha with their bodies.

Hrushytska wrote important information on slips of paper and put them into Sasha’s pockets so that if something happened to her or Adamenko, rescuers could help Sasha find his way to other family members living in different Ukrainian cities.

Initially, Adamenko and Hrushytska’s parents wanted to stay in Kharkiv, hoping to ride out the storm.

“Everyone is going, or no one is going,” Hrushytska said. The older parents realized they were putting their children and grandchild’s lives at risk by staying, and agreed to leave.

Hrushytska contacted Sasha’s biological father to see if he wanted to visit with his son again. However, it wasn’t possible. He resided in another Kharkiv suburb and it was too dangerous to make his way to the family for fear of encountering snipers along the route. They video-chatted instead and he gave them his blessing to leave with Sasha.

After three days in the house, the crew of six adults, one child, three dogs and one elderly cat piled into a car and drove southwest towards Romania.

“You feel fear at first, then you feel guilt of surviving,” Hrushytska says of her experience fleeing her city, in northeast Ukraine. She has been sharing her experiences of passing through different checkpoints and cities in Ukrainian community Facebook groups to help others who may also want to leave.

One of the family heirlooms Olena was able to bring with her — the ring her grandfather gave her grandmother. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
One of the family heirlooms Olena was able to bring with her — the ring her grandfather gave her grandmother. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)

Hrushytska and Adamenko met more than 20 years ago when they were 15 and 20. They felt they were soulmates. But back then, their age gap seemed too big, so they didn’t pursue a relationship. They went on with their lives.

Hrushytska gave birth to Sasha but then separated with his father. Adamenko also married and went through a divorce.

Adamenko and Hrushytska reconnected in January 2020 and he proposed to her in October that year.

Adamenko had moved to Winnipeg in 2014 and was splitting his time between Canada and Ukraine. When the Russian bombs started to fall, he rushed to Kharkiv knowing Hrushytska and Sasha would need help escaping.

The group passed through multiple checkpoints on their way to the border. En route, members of the Ukrainian military played with Sasha, calming him in a stressful time. Sasha saluted the soldiers at every checkpoint and yelled: “Slava Ukraini,” which means “Glory to Ukraine.”

The group slept in a hospital in Kropyvnytskyi and stayed in a house for free in the village of Chernivtsi. Adamenko’s parents stayed behind in the village to help others fleeing, as did Hrushytska’s elderly cat, who was too old to continue the journey.

The group of five eventually reached the Romanian border town of Siret. Adamenko’s Canadian passport allowed him to pass through, as Ukrainian men cannot leave the country right now. They must stay to help defend Ukraine.

Candid photos of Olena and Sergiy with a passport in their Winnipeg home. They met when they were younger, but reconnected in early 2020 after both divorced their partners. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Candid photos of Olena and Sergiy with a passport in their Winnipeg home. They met when they were younger, but reconnected in early 2020 after both divorced their partners. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)

In the northwestern Romanian city of Cluj-Napoca, and finally far enough away from the war, the group stayed in a hotel. They took their first shower in the 12 days since their exodus began.

Over the next few days, they passed through Budapest, Hungary, and Munich, Germany, before arriving in Dusseldorf where they applied for Canadian visas for Hrushytska and Sasha.

The visas were processed in four weeks and soon they were on their way. Hrushytska’s mother, her two dogs and their 24-year old friend stayed behind in Germany as they didn’t have Ukrainian passports needed to leave the EU.

On April 14, Adamenko, Hrushytska, Sasha and their dog arrived in Toronto from Amsterdam. They had been on the road for more than a month. They flew to Winnipeg on April 16, their final destination for now.

Two days later, Hrushytska celebrated her 37th birthday with a small group of friends and a large bouquet of flowers.

They’ve been busy rebuilding their lives. Hrushytska started two part-time jobs — as a funeral home hostess and as a Ukrainian language interpreter — and Sasha has begun attending a local Ukrainian school.

They’re currently staying in a friend’s basement while they regroup and settle into their new city.

jessica.lee@freepress.mb.ca

Olena and Sasha share a hug in the kitchen of a friend’s home, where the family is living in the basement. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena and Sasha share a hug in the kitchen of a friend’s home, where the family is living in the basement. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha plays with his toys at his home in Winnipeg on April 22. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha plays with his toys at his home in Winnipeg on April 22. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena and Sergiy mark Ukrainian Easter at St. Mary the Protectress Ukrainian Orthodox Cathedral in Winnipeg on April 24. They arrived in the city eight days earlier. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena and Sergiy mark Ukrainian Easter at St. Mary the Protectress Ukrainian Orthodox Cathedral in Winnipeg on April 24. They arrived in the city eight days earlier. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena, Sasha, and Sergiy celebrate Ukrainian Easter at St. Mary the Protectress Ukrainian Orthodox Cathedral in Winnipeg on April 24. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena, Sasha, and Sergiy celebrate Ukrainian Easter at St. Mary the Protectress Ukrainian Orthodox Cathedral in Winnipeg on April 24. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha, Olena and Sergiy take in their first Winnipeg Jets game in late April. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha, Olena and Sergiy take in their first Winnipeg Jets game in late April. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena, Sergiy and Sasha enjoy the hockey game with family friend Valerii Pasko (right). (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena, Sergiy and Sasha enjoy the hockey game with family friend Valerii Pasko (right). (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha prepares before heading to his first day of school in Winnipeg on May 2. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha prepares before heading to his first day of school in Winnipeg on May 2. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha is ready to step out of the house for his first day of school with Olena and Sergiy on May 2. Olena tears up about this moment in his life. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha is ready to step out of the house for his first day of school with Olena and Sergiy on May 2. Olena tears up about this moment in his life. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha holds his mother's hand as he walks with her and Sergiy to school. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha holds his mother's hand as he walks with her and Sergiy to school. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha takes in his new school surroundings. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha takes in his new school surroundings. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha settles into his desk, with the help of his mom and teacher, before class starts on his first day of school on May 2. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Sasha settles into his desk, with the help of his mom and teacher, before class starts on his first day of school on May 2. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena wipes away a tear as she watches Sasha line up at school. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena wipes away a tear as she watches Sasha line up at school. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Following a day of school, the family gathers at a fast food restaurant. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Following a day of school, the family gathers at a fast food restaurant. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena, Sergiy and Sasha are at the Manitoba Legislative Building on May 19 for Vyshyvanka Day. The day celebrates Ukrainian folk traditions of creating and wearing ethnic embroidered clothes called vyshyvankas. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Olena, Sergiy and Sasha are at the Manitoba Legislative Building on May 19 for Vyshyvanka Day. The day celebrates Ukrainian folk traditions of creating and wearing ethnic embroidered clothes called vyshyvankas. (Jessica Lee / Winnipeg Free Press)
Jessica Lee

Jessica Lee
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After freelancing from abroad and in Toronto for most of her career, Jessica Lee moved to Winnipeg from Toronto in 2021 to join the Free Press.

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